Korean Tecktonik dance - 우비소년 지하철 버전 테크토닉 댄스

Korean Guy Tecktonik Dance 2

Korean Guy Tecktonik Dance

Honest opinions about myself...

Need to constantly come clean with myself, so that i can improve to become a better person.....the worst case scenario is thinking that you're the best in the world but not having the results to prove it...

1. Still operating at extremely self-conscious mode...Too serious ALL THE TIME....my ego deserves a WALLOP to realise how puny i actually am, and that nobody actually cares about you more than yourself...as much as possible, you don't have to give a fuck about what others think...

2. not funny enough....whats funny is not the joke, but the energy and the vibe...

3. constantly trying to be cool...think about being less cool, and you become cooler...

4. i wish i was someone who could 'feel' instead of analysing every stupid detail....cos you'll know what to do, instead of trying to find out what to do...

5. too submissive to emotions......practise state control ALL THE TIME..

6. learn to make friends and have fun, instead of trying to get to know everything about somebody....its about RELATING to ppl....not GETTING TO KNOW ppl...

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Solutions?

1. Do whatever stupid thing that pops up in my mind ASAP, but may be too shy to do even in public.....That includes...singing out the song stucked in my head, dancing if i feel happy, insulting somebody even if it means hurting that person's feelings, cos if i do feel like it, he probably deserves it..

2. if someone is pumping buying temperature....must go pump along, and elevate it to greater heights....

3. wow this is hard...never talk about anything that i feel is cool about myself.......its hard to define, cos whats cool is also whats interesting...just not talk about myself then, not put myself in the picture.......e.g my music, my plans, my band, hockey, social science or which smu, alleybar or jobs, trips... ...if it ever gets there, change topic without answering the question...or drag it and make it sound ridiculous....or use the comment "That's bullshit"

4. do what the situation demands.......calibrate, and be instinctive...do not plan ahead...

5. if i get emo or jealous, two most common emotions i have.....MAke eye contact and smile to anybody immediately! and elicit a smile back!.......if jealousy brews, do soemthing selfless...like buying someone else a drink or meal......thus i'll get used to the idea of others benefitting and me losing...

6. same as 3., never ask them about their details...

Balls...(yet again)

wow....ppl are saying 'crazy asians' on youtube...but they don't realised how repressed asian society is.....its definitely much easier to overcome social anxiety in america than in korea.......

but to those with the guts, if you're going to do this.....you might as well start from the top, the toughest..

Step out of it!... Remember, by withstanding the torture of humiliation today, uh.....you grow balls....

the next time you enter the club, there are always times where there is not a single soul on the dance floor, while everyone is just watching......be the first one to enter and behave like a retard.....

cos this probably crossed my mind more than once....and i've done it..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3WNQciDzBBk

FUCKCKCKKC

Life never gives you a second chance!!!!

And i had to shoot myself in the foot.............the 4th time this past 2 weeks?.....

Its just as i said...."i would really regret it if i didn't at least....."

Imaginarium....

HEllo everybody!....Its saturday! That means its time for another edition of..........

i should try writing an entertaining piece this way....

Chung reminded us of a quote, lol....... "Do or do not, there is no try."

that was yoda....

I'm in a really zen-like state now, i would like to share with you my plans for the coming months, but then i no longer feel like it...

Sorry fellow readers...hock was telling me that i haven't updated my blog for a really long time....

and what do i have to offer? but the same-ole-crap......Sure i'm really satisfied with this month of december, the whole taiwan trip was a blast, and it opened up more opportunities that i was just telling another friend about....of course, when my parents heard about it, their minds are too warped to even think its possible, so they say something like, "no way, you can't do it, so expensive, not possible." with the absolute fullest of doubt, and now reaccessing my response, i got all defensive and walked into my room ignoring them.......

I may have some of the least supportive parents, but i wasn't cool either.....*slap myself*

You know what qing hao's father tells him? (his the direct heir of chan brothers' travel legacy, and that his surname) ok, no big deal rite.....but his father tells him not to be a pushover in army, and to argue back to his superiors if he thinks his right....typical example of a..... 'rich dad'....


Oh yeah, some random trivia for you guys....and i noticed that a big proportion of ah lians and ahbengs these days communicate in english....yes i was a little bitter at first.....but yeah, they don't owe it to anybody.....they can be whoever, have any identity they want as long as.........identity is just a tool anyway...





nothing to update......till the next big thing comes along...
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sigh...maybe i do want to say something.....bless all of you who are out and about to find your source...

really brief.....go watch 'hurt locker'.....'point break'....'jarhead'....'gattaca'....even 'avatar'...i might as well try to reconnect my senses right now...cos for the past week or so, i have that conversational block that i couldn't buid rapport with ppl anymore....

i wonder if anybody actually read stuff here and found it inspirational.......i guess most ppl found it stupid

i just can't live one day without some action.......i miss my army days also.....even chiong suah in the 'jungles' of lim chu kang, gave me that pathetic sense of 'masculinity'....like taming the toruk.....or being seen driving in a lamborghini(?)...its like your dick grew longer....

CHOOSE YOUR OWN ADVENTURE

Joan Jett - Bad Reputation

Avril Lavigne - Bad Reputation Offical Video

This is why ppl hate avril lavigne....

"The only reason this is a good song is because she didn't write it...." - ilovemy80sbaby (youtubber comment)

why can't she be more like hayley williams....oh Opps...

The Clash - Should I stay or should I go

SHOULD I STAY SHOULD I GO

i think decisions have been the hardest part.....a certain girl(or girls?..i'm a loser and a wimp..) use to tell me to be decisive many many years ago.....does this relate to how i am now?...nah not really..


wow...ppl have a hard time deciding what to do today..even realistically, its not much of a big deal...but they always say take small steps...what little effort that you invest today, play a big role in the outcome in future...

like deciding to smoke a cigarette today.....well..actually...its not even easy to get addicted...but if you do it today, theres a great possibility that it'll happen again next time.....i know its nonsensical but....statistics show that...and i'm sure all of you have heard of this...victims of rape are more likely to be raped again a second time..i guess willpower is that elusive...

then again...our lives change when you least expect it to.....look back and thinkof the habits(esp good ones) that you've kind of easily have adopted over the many months....
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the hardest part is deciding to do it..i'm reiterating this again....we all know its not easy stepping out of our comfort zone, i personally, as a person that i myself deem have stepped out of my comfort zone time and time again......Testify, that its not easy...

its easy to fall back into old habits....

i guess i haven't actually shared this with most ppl or i don't rmb the last person i told this to....i think it was many months ago...prolly 6 months or more....we all get sick and tired of hanging out with the same ppl again and again....i don't know if this happens to others....

cos archtypically, ppl lose touch with their friends only because they've found better friends.....and they've got new friends to hang out with, so they haven't got time for the old friends....'research' shows that a person can realistically have only 8 friends at any given time, that you feel really emotionally connected to....i think this research may be true, but doesn't prove anything....cos i don't see myself with having that many close friends at all...sometimes 1 or 2..most of the time none...

again i think i have a whole opinion on this....but i don't wanna waste any time....
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should i quit my job, is it more time that i need to meet my daily objectives?......or i could just work less days thus having to settle for less pocket money....

i don't need money now...doesn't mean i'll run short on my savings later....thinking of makin money thru my hobbies also...but that means having to invest some time, and scrimp on my savings for a few months(to practise) until i start getting good and it being a skill worth being paid for....

its prolly possible to work and put in extra time for that 'pipeline building' but wow.....i'm really lazy.....hope i can do it...and that time management is probably the best and most important and beneficial skill in life for you to accomplish anything else..... is to learn time management...

so i come to my conclusion, the same one.....i already came upon but was too lazy to see it thru many many weeks or possibly years of my existense....

A trip down memory lane.....

a couple of things that happened....that made me look back to the past.....i don't know if i'm in a better position now....but theres some emotional struggle back then

i know i'll never be the same person again......but i was such a loser back then!...maybe when i look back in 5 years time......i would say i was a loser at the age of 20 too....

i think a short post would suffice, i missed the relationships and the friends that i have years ago....now, dynamics change...

i revisited a lan shop for the first time in a year or more i think and really enjoyed it....i thought i grew out of it many years ago...

to side track abit, l4d wasn't that bad a game, just that its wrong to play it in a lan shop, its not isolated.....it so unzombie-like to play it in such a 'organised' 'factory-like' environment... if you could isolate yourself for a day in serchung's basement...playing it with 3 other friends, then that would be hardcore fun....the spirit of lan gaming is isolation....i rmb going to cheepng or zhiyang's house to game endlessly from day to night.......



i rmb watching '28 days later', and its like the sort of movie you enjoy cos sometimes we embrace isolation, and spending hours just doing something that is not purposeful......



as a band, me chung bry and jan....wtf....enclosed in a studio......thinking back, anyone that isn't that obsessed with rock music would find it to be hell to spend 3 hours in a room that has some amplifiers..and nothing else......cos this isn't your typical jamming studio, that sells drinks and has nice rock posters everywhere, and dimmed lights... it like a four walled room filled only with the bare necessities....fricking plain.....the owner was a computer guy cum soundman, for numerous local bands though...


i rmb walking up the flight of stare to thing dingy warehouse in the middle of balestier....its a fucked up place... let me post a picture...i think i have still have them...

Good times.... as in i guess life was easy back then.... i think it was after reading 'the game' that my life sorta became desperate, it became a rat race only after having read that book...don't know if it was good..i use to not treat anything that seriously.....there was no pressure whatever........

i take mrt nowadays and guess whats going on in ppls' heads and wonder if it was simple..

it was sorta like just simply seeking out fun....and on whatever you can get your hands on...and you couldn't care less.......if time was wasted.....

now i worry bout not exercising enough, or not eating the right foods, my mental state, whether i'm in control of my emotions or try to influence it, whether i'm utilizing my time....during school....you just live thru each day like it was all laid out, like there was a greater plan for things to happen and you weren't in so much control so you just don't care...you didn't had to plan how to scale social obstacles or anything or social pressure...

i never had the concept of social pressure until recently......maybe i was a more confident as a person in the past!....now i have more situational confidence, or appear more confident, but deep inside i'm also like ten times more insecure and aware....

if i knew nothing, i was confident.....there was not a single tinge of self-doubt....did i ever even hesitate the things i did to a girl?.....i just felt emotionally compelled to do so.....and none of that was fear....

i just decided one day i had to do well in school at january 7th 2005..........talk about changing habits overnight....i just started picking up books to study so hardcore like i never did before....i was 38th or something in a class or 42(25th october 2004)....shall checked the report book for some proof....oh...11 august 2005, 30/42........7 october 2005..... 15/42....the jump seems ridiculously stupid.....i think even during august.....i know what i was doing already...i was ignoring the the teachers and the things they were teaching....back traccking to learn things that ppl have done many months earlier, i was doing catch up work....

and the thought of going up on stage...the decision to go up and perform....lol.....there was absolute zero stress in decision making!...we played for 6 performances(excluding auditions, rehearsals...blah blah) from late 2004 to 2006.......its like....i personally never thought of what ppl would think of me...if they would think i'm lousy or what....(lol...its ironic, its like we always think we're the greatest....but when i look back...my singing sucks!)...it doesn't take guts to perform in front of an audience....there is some andrenaline before the performance...but...when you walk onto the stage and address the audience.....and then there will always be that pause of nothingness, where they look at you just before you started playing...while we could still be tampering with our equipment here and there.....that tension is great!

suddenly....theres some relevance in these experiences to what i'm facing now.....why is it so hard to pull myself to do things now??? when it use to be a simple decision process...and i just did it... is it some forbidden fruit that i've taken that made me so insecure now compared to before....

maybe its motivation...the source of motivation.....

Imitation

"Good artists copy; great artists steal."

This is a favorite phrase of Steve Jobs, but he is (mis)quoting Pablo Picasso.
"Lesser artists borrow; great artists steal" is similarly attributed to Igor Stravinsky, but both sayings may well originate in T. S. Eliot's dictum: "Immature poets imitate; mature poets steal; bad poets deface what they take, and good poets make it into something better, or at least something different."

(taken from wikiquote)

Weezer - Hash Pipe: Revised

oh well, maybe i like acting cool....it started with the kurt cobain and the wallet chain, black converse all-star which i had thru out secondary sch,

this was the vid i was inspired by at 12 yrs old which put me in search of horn-rimmed glasses...since then....i never bothered trying on contact lenses because i was constantly trying to make this look work...weezer released green album about that time and played this song hashpipe on mtv awards...

The Hour: Survivorman

The dishonest man you can always trust to be dishonest...

I don't know if it ever happened to you guys before...but it happened to me today, and guess what...i'll boast to all of you about it....

In the book the alchemist, something about telling others your treasure, but even then, nobody will believe you..

i lost a friend today because he thinks i'm a lying manipulative bastard...honestly, i don't know if i did do anything like that...but well i've been minding my own business.......and i don't go out of my way to impress any single person...look at my facebook account, and this blog, its pathetic in contrast to the 'lives' that others out there are living.....and if theres any experience that i'm lucky enough to have gone thru and shared with you guys......is TRUE..

i do feel PROUD....sometimes extremely proud of myself of somethings that i've acheive over my lifetime...and that includes my taste in music and film even though i'm not equipped with the proper vocabulary to express it other than it being 'ORGASMIC'....its like the dota player thats like to say 'Godlike' or 'Holyshit'(the sounds actually was copied over from Quake 3, cos i spent a huge time playing it online.. in fact i'm so proud of my knowledge of trivial facts cos i derive sick pleasure from plagiarising from the internet.......and i'm sure everyone does feel proud of themselves in someway or the other.........

and at the same time, there are things that i'm not proud about...like being late and lazy...
and at the same time i feel like my life could be better improved...if only i had this or that, did this or that....

and everybody feels the same way, live the same lives...

and if i did offend anybody, i'm sorry......hey look, i didn't go out of my way to put you down ok.....



and to those that i haven't been replying your messages or returning your calls.....i'm sorry. I am not allowed to bring my phone with me during work, they have security that search my pocket for things like these.....and most of the time, i'm too tired and lazy cos i end really late...like 4am and reach home about 5 the latest...(look at the time of this post).....and i don't feel like i need to compensate by giving you a half-hearted reply...
--------- oh yeah and that means waking you up from your slumber when you receive my reply

Bllind Melon - No Rain

the best version of this song.....
Blind Melon - No rain (Live on SNL)

The Hour: Malcolm Gladwell

Quit Being a Fag

"The only person you have to compete with, compare yourself to or impress is yourself. In fact the only person who really cares about your success is you." - Sinn

shall list a couple of objectives to meet this week, or life will look a bit confusing...

- finish reading outliers, body by science

-start reading 48 laws of power

-enquire on the possibility of opening 3 bank accounts from one bank

-book accommodation for taiwan trip

-open 20sets....

-pick up the guitar finally

-organise my room before picking up the guitar..

working at alleybar has greatly piqued my interest in all things under the sun...... getting to speak to germans, french, swiss(?), finnish, japanese, filipinos, australians, americans....its a weird enclave of mixed cultures...

its destiny....like the old man Frank was telling me...

and there was no tint of hypocrisy at all as i thought this service industry would be filled with..

its better than sitting at home figuring out what to do in life, being out there helps me decide..... and i think i may have solved my problem of being late...

receiving words of encouragement from ppl that i barely know.....telling me that its all possible to do whatever you want....instead of walking the well-worn path...

and that for me is to not waste time on an engineering degree..

Empire of the Sun - Walking On A Dream (HD)

Röyksopp - Eple (Glastonbury 05)

Everyone talks about the british invasion, how great rock and roll is....punk rock and sex pistols, hip hop... No one talks about electronic music being the next frontier..

Live, its like witnessing an alien landing...or aliens could be witnessing us from a distant star....wondering wtf are we up to...

50 Cent On The Today Show (9-8-09)

What do you cling onto?

Love..(be careful, this is gonna be a long one....)

Damn, i'm tired and confused.... just 4 days ago, i was so clear-headed, and i know what i wanted to do or learn for the next few months....

now i feel like i've lost that sense of control again...

i've got a plan in the beggining, a masterplan to live my days according to some predetermined values...NO...once you step into it....you're swept off, and you don't know how to regain some of that foothold....

i don't know what i'm doing right now if its out of wanting to learn, out of fear, out of some misguided sense of validation which ceases to exist as of the end of today, out of cognitive dissonance(commonly known as denial).......

therefore, you see, the list of factors listed above shows that emotions truimph over logic any day......

whats stopping me from going after something i so much wanted last week, well, if i could recall, i was lying in my little blue bed back in a swamp in the middle of the Goverment-forsaken Singapore.......thinking abouthow great my life would turn out after ORD....


Bad working hours VS Good working hours
Lonesomeness VS Family warmth?
Girls with high social value VS Girl wannabes
Ppl who feel out of place VS ppl who feel comfortable
...............this is not helping..........i could go on comparing forever....it doens't matter

bar vs fine dining.......what kind of social dynamics do i want.........which is more uncomfortable so i can learn more....its not the matter of money, working hours or free meals.....

and i can't ask anybody anyway, no one is gonna make that decision for you.i've come acrss this so many times....
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*SNIP*.....

ah....the moment you quit playing the game, thats when you lose...

and that is like saying, you cant fall in love with anybody, until they fall in love with you first...

i'm not bitter or anything, maybe a little but, its the truth........cos once you do, you become enslaved by your own emotions....and everything that person says or do affects you adversely.....

well, i guess i'm going to finally see a point in trying this.....for the past few months, i work one target at a time....if what they say is true, with multiple targets, you divide attention and not get too attached...thus it doesn't hurt as much when you fall...yes this might just be the answer....

AND NO LONGER ANY MORE HESISTATION!.....ITS FULL ON!....yes, you might scare ppl away, but since you've already broken your reserve, you gain something, you live on with no regrets instead of thinking you should have done something....And since when did i scare anybody away........

Honesty is indeed the highest level of dominance....disregard of judgement from others....

Freaks and Geeks-part16

Strong framing, not buying into frame, persistence, dominance, cold as stone...

The Smashing Pumpkins - X.Y.U (Live HD)

RIDICuLOUS! LOL

DRUNK AND HEAVY METAL

So i'm back listening to the smashing Pumpkins....... X.Y.U

honestly i don't know if i'm excited...but thanks to all you ppl.....feels like i've finally escaped escaped poverty or the like....

alcohol to set you free eh?!

i think the world is an irony though......the longer you stay sober, the cooler...

FAILL

FAILURE

Picture paints a thousand words....

Once again.

Once more.

Yet again.

A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do. Brave the fire of rejection.

guys its part of life to meet failure and rejection. Like they say, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger?


get real, deal with it.....


well, heres the important part. Develop strategies to treat your negativity. Press restart, its not the end of the world. Even if it is, the universe still goes on...


rely on hope to do the unthinkable....

Attraction is Not a Choice

"Attraction is not a choice" - David DeAngelo

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" - don't know who....maybe its the creature of the same name.."BEHOLD! Its the Beholder!"


We all question ourselves....when we see that really beautiful and smoking hot girl walking hand in hand, massive PDA with a really fat and ugly guy.......

Or the really tall dark and handsome guy with the cmi girl.......

I think the quotes above does not address the point enough....

It is not the lack of judgement that is happening here......rather its the pure skill, dexterity and control of the one we deem unapologetically unworthy.......Game....

"Attraction is not a choice"...if you're the victim......

"Beauty is in the hands of the unworthy"

quoting jacky wu which he quoted from somewhere......(in mandarin) "There is no such thing as ugly women, only lazy women"

This is why i'm obsessed with Game...this is "......what they don't teach in Harvard Business School......"

Nobody Internet Submissions!

You gotta admit, even if you hate this song, Nobody by the Wondergirls is a worldwide phenomenon.....the infinite NLP anchors in their dance cheoreography to the lyrics....(similar to N'Sync in Byebyebye....stomping and twirling their fist above their heads).....the short footage of them attaining stardom in their MTV, where they could have been relatively 'nobodies'...since their prev videos were more humble...(the Backstreet Boys first few videos before they were even that popular, not sure which, had them disembarking from their own private jet in broad day, donning shades, cameras snapping away, towards a group of crazy fan girls....blink182 had a parody)

but i think the visual impact (for guys) by Girls generation - gee is much greater....the dance moves.....prolly because they didn't have that 'stardom' part in their mtv that they aren't as popular...

its not supernatural, its just psychological....Theory of Perception......MPs in Singapore are 'nobodies' as well.....their rallies and visits to residential areas are hyped up by getting volunteers to go undercover as supporters....(think of the recent hype of flashmobs....they are used in politics all the time....'flashgame' in PUA terms, flash a wallet full of cash even if that means putting your entire life savings in, to convince your audience that you have more hidden up somewhere...

In other words, propaganda is not only for politics...

Halloween Blues: Special Edition!

I went to great lengths in waiting for my browser to load to get this out to you guys......i think i can type pretty fast...so heere goes...usually at any point of time, you belong to one of these categories....but it'll be good if you don't belong to any of these....



A. You have plans for the evening. Its HALLOWEEN! You're going to head to the clubs with a large bunch or just a couple of you, but you're going to party anyway. You know you're going to have a good time, you're happy, you're excited, you're elated. You're lucky, at which case you can stop reading and come by here another time when you feel then that your emotions can't get any worst.



B. No plans...you having the holiday blues, similar to then when its christmas or new year's eve....you know you should be having fun, but you're just waiting at home, reading this, hoping that the phone will ring, that someone will have some masterplan in mind. This could be any other day man.....you just got off surfing facebook....and you're bored.



C. No plans..... No idea what you're gonna do today, or tmr.. You don't hang out with friends...rather, no one calls you...but you're so used to it...that doesn't seem to be a problem...





i myself don't have any plans...but i'm oging out anyway, its more of a shade of grey....



you can feel like this any other day...not just during holidays...halloween is not even a holiday.....

Self-help

Corgan confirmed on the band's website in August 2009 that 19-year-old drummer Mike Byrne had replaced Chamberlin, and that the pair was working on a new album.

Flash Mob at Raffles Place 23.10.09

damn....can't believe Singapore is finally catching on....took our country awhile, but i guess every other weekend you're gonna see things like this everywhere...no longer is it alternative counter-culture or alienated like in Fight Club or anarchist themes....

I don't know, kind of envious or bitter about it.....It seems i wanna make my own mark, and where the masses go, i avoid... at the end of the day i wanna be the one with most balls..a seperate entity.....Something i tell my mum everyday..

Damn i couldn't be part of this when it was still fresh a last year or months ago...where it was more indie..

This was what the producer of the first flashmob in 2003 spoke of, "Wasik claimed that he created flash mobs as a social experiment designed to poke fun at hipsters and to highlight the cultural atmosphere of conformity and of wanting to be an insider or part of "the next big thing".[7] The Vancouver Sun wrote, "It may have backfired on him... [Wasik] may instead have ended up giving conformity a vehicle that allowed it to appear nonconforming."(wikipedia)

and so, the genius and spirit of Cacophony Society 1986, suffer the same fate as hippies and punks...

it feels like watching an episode of Heroes or Full Metal Alchemist, where a good motive may change the entire world for the worst.

the smashing pumpkins - i am one - live

Barcelona 1994...... Their hendonistic approach to music and jamming....playing it 2 to 3 times its ordinary tempo, letting loose and not giving much of a fuck

FRUGALITY

I am selfish, and i'm looking at some of my choices and getting myself really pissed with the things i can't seem to have, with the population explosion, competition, life is futile.

I've been wanting to lay my hands on an ipod ever since i saw it as an recurring accessory of Seth Cohen in the OC...the lifestyle which it conveys...the types of music that i would upload into it......instead of the junk, the disdain i get when i scroll through the things; ppl pollute their stuff.

No understanding...i'm just very unhappy....no one will ever perceive nirvana, smashing pumpkins or any other alternative culture, films as i would have.

You ppl are obsessed with the superficiality of it all.............and it is even harder for me to live a life trying to devoid myself of the posers of the world...think of the bitterness that Tyler Durden has in Fight Club....

Or even Whatever Works..

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Then again, i never really hate a lot of ppl that i meet...even if they are not as emotionally, socially intelligent....why is it humans are empathetic?

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just feeling hopeless from some of the issues that i face..... i'm lazy to type it here...too bad you guys don't get to judge me or give me the finger

Blinded by my ego....

i just woke up in the middle of the night i realised this...and i better say it so i can at least get back to an hour or more of sleep...

it wasn't because i sucked but i escalated wrong..........the first time i was bought a large bulk of my dinner...maybe she was hesitant....or she would have paid the whole thing....

this time, why would someone buy me coffee? i just bump into a stranger....talk....you get a listener and free drink........

and i thought i was doing it wrong....i was still held by the preconceived notion that girls shouldn't be paying for stuff........and that guys should be the one paying...

not sure though....whether its because the other person is more senior and being a working professional thus feel compelled to do so.....

Now i'm fucked up....should i pay, feel good that the other person is paying or go dutch?....

this argument stems from the awkwardness i feel esp during that coffee date, that even though i pull the dollar note....ppl still push it away and maybe i could display some sort of male dominance.....

what is the appropriate course of action with the highest situational relevance?

hahaha..i just like that i sound so analytical...

maybe the right pua mentality would be to get on 10 other dates and calibrate....

according to mystery, or business psychology books.....its emotional investment.....the more a person invest emotionally, the more likely there would be a follow up....so if i would to follow this rule, then i should just let it happen....and this is counter-intuitive....

Sinn's "oh-shit buttons"....pinging.....The person 'moves' or 'isolate', you're 99% of the time developed attraction...i have 'bought me a drink(day)/meal(evening)'...

shall stop the self-amusement here.....

A. high compliance/investment
B. plausible deniability
C. developed attraction



ARGHHHHHHH i shouldn't even give a shit....its not important, what's important is climbing on to opportunities!!!!!!!!!!!! and that talk is for another day..........

i needed but didn't

A. Qualify!( may or may not have done to acknoledge..)
B. Triangular gaze
C. sexual SOI
D. Kino rewards

i succeeded
A. pump state.
B.Being social
C. Emotional connection
D. Kino

Judy

Very tired though.... To me, its hard work and discipline...




while i was tired today....i didn't complete my objectives that i set myself yesterday evening.... 6 sets. Loud, energetic, smile. 2 #-closes...


well, was tired...but DJ Fuji video reminded me of how hardcore i was at it...until recently i got too comfortable and lazy again...


It is true you know..... "Why do you suppose we only feel compelled to chase the ones who run away?"


Again i secured a instadate like....i think to me its easier than setting up a day 2....i've never had any day 2s....but i've been on 3 instadates now......sigh...why does it feel boring?? maybe i'm tired... Sinn felt like commiting suicide after figuring how to get laid....because it was too easy for him..........


Still, i was telling Evan earlier.....he thinks that... we may one day appear on Newpaper because of the things we did....yet, at the same time i think.....when we become natural enough, its not going to alert anybody at all.... Its just that, we ventured into an aspect of humanity few dare to explore...


Yet last week, when i spoke to these new friends.....they sounded as if they got it all sorted out too...


I use to end my entries with no conclusion....but today i like to set my mind at peace...Finally i found it easy that i can just snip away at any bullshit that i don't want surrounding myself....


I love challenges! and i'm not saying this to sound ridiculously cliche.......

It just that i keep abandoning that fear of rejection...and keep dishing out high-risk compliance pings....and well, i keep lose my sets after that...and i give up...



Today, i am not going to NEXT...i'm going to keep pushing just so that i can learn to recover next time....






EVERYONE....have a GREAT week ahead.........please, with my utmost sincerity...i hope all of you discover a new passion. Enjoy a good experience... Fall in love. Make a new friend. Break out of your comfort zones..


3 more weeks till ord...you guys stay focused, whatever makes you happy......





Archie Gates: You're scared, right?
Conrad Vig: Maybe.
Archie Gates: The way it works is, you do the thing you're scared shitless of, and you get the courage AFTER you do it, not before you do it.
Conrad Vig: That's a dumbass way to work. It should be the other way around.
Archie Gates: I know. That's the way it works.


- Ziqzak

"Just" by Radiohead (Glastonbury 2003)

My love for nicely calibrated noise.

Drinking

Ego validation all round within the confines of a mexican stand-off....

I think My Heart has finally figured it out.

My heart beats not in fear, but in anticipation and excitement...

Evan told me about the red zone and it being the cause of fumbling.....i don't know...

Even though it may have happened before, it was the most evident yesterday, the 'red zone', where it doesn't hinder, but was more fun being in that state....maybe it would be better without it...its not a question of odds, but whether you're going to do it anyway...

It wasn't the best set that i did...it wasn't the most ego-validating one either....but i had a heightend awareness of it all....

Me cp and jw was sitting at the tables outside of burger king at wheellock.....we were discussing about relationships in general the whole night before this while we were on our way here.....jw just being a good listener....me trying to change my way of putting thing across in more subtle ways...forcing myself to sound politically correct and also being that emotional tampon....and no longer smart-ass sounding...

this really tall(means hot) malay chick came down the steps and sat at one of the tables 10 metres away, under those burger king umbrellas on the other side(orange julius)....me cp and jw(nearer to starbucks)........

The cool thing about this ambience is, its at night....very dark...but the lights inside burger king was very bright...so there was a good glow... There was less ppl seated outside at burger king on this saturday as all the cool angmoh, mats, smokers, cliques were in the huge congestion outside starbucks....

ppl if you want a good place to emotionally connect....don't go starbucks....3 metres away is burger king...and it only consists of mostly single working professionals....no irritating paul twohill and levan wannabe fanbases....

Straight ahead 10 metres across....me and cp and jw...was here to chill for the night...but i just couldn't help it...ever since being on this.....not approaching deals a much bigger psychological blow later on than the initial 'immolation' of approaching...

My mind has decided the moment i saw her to do it...that usual rush of andrenaline always occurs when your mind decides to go for it......but then i couldn't just pop up and leave my friends...i kept to myself and silent.....10 seconds pass....30 seconds pass....i told them i'm not feeling well.....i sat there just taking the moment in.....i was actually enjoying this highly-anticipating moment.....

it isn't a matter of going up or not anymore...its a matter of how i'm going to tell my friends i'm going....."look at her, shes hot right..."......2 mins pass.....i'm still sitting there with my heart thumping yet i was still calm.....i was having fun, aware of all the physiological reactions that i was undergoing, yet it did not matter, i wasn't even going to run...

any moment now...any moment now.....5 mins pass....still i sat there....the guys could see me in my predicament...."AH FucK....see.... guys, i really got to do this....i can't not go up...."....cp was like.."oh ok...i got 10 mins to spare....i can wait..."

i stood up....and started walking towards her.....i knew it...doesn't matter what happens...this was the highest point of the night.....going towards what you want....replaying the mantra in my head that Steve Jobs said in the video i posted yesterday....


"If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something. - Steve jobs

thats it....everything that went on after that...was slightly bumpy...but overall smooth-sailing....

Steve Jobs' 2005 Stanford Commencement Address

Compiled list of goals...

Ok....i'm going to be talking about the things that i want to do after i ORD, and thats 35 days more.... i probably have this written on my notebook somewhere....but i think i;ll never really look at the same page twice....or the helpful notes that i have in there, i think cos i spend most of my time online....its only practical i have one here....(i'm going to get a massive majong paper and write it down paste it on the ceiling in my room)

1) Travelling.... and languages perhaps?
Europe(for arts, culture and fashion), Eastern Europe(for politics), USA(where hot girls congregate), Japan(for their street fashion,music and comics), Thailand(nightlife and sex industry), Brazil Mexico South America(latinos!) Cambodia Vietnam(get that explorer, world loving, multi-cultural tolerant, empathetic) Africa(wild-life and the prymids), Middle-east(religion, rich arabs) and the beaches around the world

the top most in my mind now...ppl do this for many reasons....for example, bring out that liberal part of themselves to the world....which for me i don't think i need this to do so, but i really want to break out....maybe its some migratory instinct that brought mankind out of africa 10,000 yrs ago passed down..maybe its the internet that has hinted at how such a lifestyle could be attractive.....liberation..

2) Job
nightlife, fnb, fashion, departmental store.........

i've grown tired of explaining this....i've never worked before, not even part-time...i guess i've been happily repressed in the past....but just to learn skills, interact, earn money, to move out and travel...and do everything i so desire...


3) Work-out

4) Moving out or better, migrate...
again, this instinct.....the need to break out from the gene pool and replicate...as Matt Ridley likes to put it...

i have trouble hanging out with my family or old friends who seem only concerned with doing nothing intersting(i hate that i'm sounding this arrogant, but i can't help it)......

5) The most important of all......TIME MANAGEMENT

i never learnt this in school....i use to take pride in being mess,late and random....just seem so attractive when rock stars live such lives....but i guess....they only had one dream....i have plenty...

waking up early, self-discipline, and commitment....

These are the words that weeks ago, i would never dare associate myself with...we always like to think, that by trying hard, routiney is unnatural....and that being spontaneous is more attractive cos its natural.....well it is..but ambition....you do what it takes...
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i hate that i'm typing this post...really....i'm uncomfortable with being motivated....ppl...you know me...maybe everyone is....we 're all lazy...trying to develop this character is inhumane, maybe its the fear of failure or reprisal....the thing is to defy homeostasis...to do and not give excuses.....

I'M STRUGGLING TO WAKE UP EVERY MORNING, AND SHUT MY THOUGHTS AND CLOSE MY EYES SO I CAN SLEEP.....

maybe meditation is necessary.....i don't want to have periods of not doing anything....meditation could prolly allow me to relax, concentrate, increase efficiency, sleep better....


rambling yet again...
-Ziqzak

Transformers..

Heartwork - 19
Anthony 'Dream' Johnson - 20
Jon Sinn - 24

Inspiration

Ok...real quick....

Just got off the train talking to this guy..... 50, goes to gym and wakes up at 4 everyday to work out and jog......in really good shape...eats very little carbo, only meat and vegetables..drinks lots of water....no alcohol or smoking, commercial diver for a shipping company, model...was divorced... dating a caucasian american whos only 30 this year, when they started dating, it was 10 years ago.....

Right... Go figure...

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hmm....*scratches his chin*.....why would someone like him be found on the train?...

i conclude..... having a car is overrated...

Hide with Spread Beaver - ROCKET DIVE (PV)

I cried to this song a few weeks ago, can't rmb......that last week of august me and chung's went to baybeats and got really disgusted at the whole event....The bleak picture that he paints, and that strength to chase..

Brave the Fire of Rejection

The Embodiment Of Masculinity

*There was a whole lot of content that was deleted before i find myself doing anything stupid.*

OK its hard...to repress myself...seriously..all forms of repression is uncomfortable..i'll get use to it.

Please hate me, reject me, abuse me, humiliate me

Ziqzak

Katy Perry - Thinking of You

Come on God! Do I Seem Bullet-Proof?!

yes that was a reference to a Red Hot Chilli Peppers song, fortune faded...

Its a line that i probably read only once, but its been carved into my mind ever since..

Everytime, one of these moments of emotional turmoil or unrest....the line never fail to pop up in my head.... I look up to the night sky and ask myself in 'emo first-person'...

The recent roller-coaster ride that i've embarked on, has painted colours into my life so fast, mtv-style that, i'm lovin' it, yet swings me about that i'm bound to be thrown off somewhere..

I guess with these colours flashing before my very eyes, i'm appreciating, slowly swallowing every bit of it, on hold and in control.


I wanna begin with first talking about my recent crush on Katy Perry which started about 15 mins ago....I feel i should go about telling this story backwards(haha...forgot which movie was it..)

I read articles about her last year on juice magazine, that she is an up-and-coming starlet....it was no until recent weeks that i started questioning my radio-friendly friends,

"Who is this person that sings 'Cos your hot n you're cold, you're yes and youre no, you're in and you're out, you're up and you're down. You're wrong when its right, its black when its white, we fight we break up, we kiss we make up.'?"

yeah...as usual, these catchy lyrics burst into my head fast and furious, i went on an uncontrolled spam of unearthing searches on her songs on youtube.....

her lyrics and videos, Hot 'N' Cold, I Kissed a Girl, Thinking of You, made me stood up immediately (hehe, i know what you're thinking).... her answers were what i was looking for from a girl's perspective and it was so relevant..

(i searched 'boyfriend destroyers' much earlier....lol)

read her up as usual on wikipedia....like i did for leslie feist, katie white, leighton meester, sophie marceau, sienna miller, lin chi ling, cai shu zhen, sasha grey, jesse jane, maria ozawa...WAHAHA.....XDXDXD....and not to be tacit but well she is nothing short of interesting....and listening to her emotionally-fuelled songs from her album that i just illegally downloaded...

"Dear Katy Perry,

maybe we're not going to ever bump into each other this life, maybe i'll never even get the chance to say hi, let alone unleash a flurry of routines.....i truly cherish your presence in this industry and brought the colours in my life into something of a much thicker shade...Thanks for the female perspective without being hardcore feministic....

Young teenage girls should idolise you and put PussyCatDolls to the trash.

I'm emotionally-connected, indebted to you...

-Zachery Pang Ziqi "



I'm in Love yet again.....in the more naive, more selfish and less selfless sense of the word....

At least i realised now, that love is really tangible...in that besides being a less than elusive emotion,i learnt about myself, and those i chose to fall in 'neediness' with....

I realised that for myself......and assuming that evolutionary theory is true, i'm speaking on behalf of human males... We're only in 'Love' with those that validate our ego the most..we pay the most attention to the girls who make us feel good with ourselves(they are not necessarily pretty)....guys are really insecure..and if a girl tells us that we're some guy that they'll like to spend their entire lives with....a guy probably doesn't have a choice...we would probably marry her, pass on our genes and be happy. In this case, evolution and natural selection has only a limited extent of influence in the human race, and that we are ruled by emotions after all..

Reality is ugly, so is being an ugly or fat girl, you don't have to worry....guys will still give their heart and soul to you if you know how to play the game.

(gonna speed up the process, i gotta meet my friends for a movie, 'Whatever Works', a 'dude-flick' disguised as a 'chick-flick' go check out the trailer on youtube)

And girls, and only concerning those that display at least a slight interest in me..... They assume and ending up making me up to be somebody, well that i'm really not....some fairy-tale, or some guy they want to be swept away by, but i've always failed miserably and turn out to be that uglier half, which is the needier, binding wires sort....Such assumptions by them i assume could be due to some behaviors that i portray of my 'ideal, perfect' self that i'm still struggling to become....the dhvs or emotional value similar to those present in pop-culture....

Like for e.g this stupid english accent that i've developed for myself in primary school....or being emo and irrational...i will talk about my idiosyncrasies the other day.....

In this case, advice such as "Fake it till you Make it." actually works, just that you gotta practise it till you get a certain degree of congruency.....one's gotta believe it to be really congruent or ppl could easily spot a fake....and that's where inner game comes in.....

Boyfriends and girlfriends?....i have a phobia of relationships now, though it is inherent in nature...i also see the ugly side that ppl get too comfortable and do not want to get someone of better 'quality'.....like the really beautiful woman in her late 30s deciding to settle down because she knows that her beauty won't last...and that she cannot trade her present boyfriend for someone more exciting...as much as ppl want to believe that their relationships are perfect, we all know that it is strife with insecurities and distress..

Also, does that exciting boyfriend really exist? or just another facade...

Yet, from the other side, We love to live in our fantasy worlds in that a large part of it do still remain in fantasy but it does interfere with our decision making..

ok...i'm quite distracted now, so neither do i want to degrade the quality of this post.......as usual....these ramblings seldom comes with a conclusion, and i hope it sparks some reflection of your own..

Nothing is absolute. I may be wrong, as I made my observations from my approaches and the targets and my past experiences.....add one to one...does it really add up?...

do not hesitate to critique on the comments below what i just said....i really want to hear a voice that is not as naive, cynical as mine...


" I can't help it..."
-Ziqzak

Ego, The Self-image

i've gain a new revelation.....

insecurities are part of a bigger piece of a person's mind

Ego, how highly one thinks of himself, or herself...sometimes, 'insecurities' may not be the justifiable word for how one views himself...(apologize for my weak grasp in such psychological concepts..)....But in order to make oneself look good and dominant.....one may submit to his own ego which in the best case scenario, its good.....while in the worst case scenario, he would be in denial...blah blah blah

until i can explain these in proper terms, i shall not confuse you guys, cos i haven't thought thru it yet....


Anyway, in an interaction.....i'vejust learnt from evan and realised some of this from whatever resources i've read that...its not good to 'show hand'....its good to create 'fishing lines' unanswered questions ......

By keeping this in mind, i realised that, i force myself to avoid ego validation....and i've never knew how it can be done to stroke someone's ego....but i guess this means 'Qualifying'! Bait hook reel release...

I gotta be aware if i'm cutting off ppl's sentences....i'm rather effective in expressing myself that i'm completing ppl's sentences for them....while they're still processing their thoughts....AND THIS IS BAD!.......while its time for ppl to hold court, do not cut them out...........i better slap myself each time i do this.


push-pull: i think ppl may wonder how its done?....its not enough to simply say balance every IOI with and IOD....it is a good rule to practise....it onl works if the other party appreciates your IOIs... From a wider perspective....i believe it is more of reeling them in....and then be the first one to push or release....


Thats it...some random thoughts on my interactions today....

Its also good to create lots of drama....these i learnt from 'J'

Chick flicks..

First it was Devil's Wear Prada......I just finished watching Confessions of a Shopaholic...lol....and seriously i hate to say this...in fact i would be humiliated if people knew about this..

It manages to raise that emotional rush all the way up and then pushes you off the edge of the cliff..yeah...corny but true, like a rollercoaster...perhaps i'll watch it again, to see how well planted and calculated the scenes are placed.....nlp?golden ratio?...

Personally...i managed to cease any form of shopping for the past 3 months....i used to be spending at least a hundred dollars a month on clothes...of my 700 dollars...and i know this is so little compared to some of you 'shopaholics' out there....but i know i have that 'shopaholic' tendencies...

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Uugh.....i just had a really light lunch at the dining table with my parents...i feel really empty inside....and i didn't have much of an appetite...

Game is both the cause and the only way to alleviate this emotional crunch....

The themes in 'The Alchemist' is so right....once you start to obsess yourself over your dreams...you can never get out...(a bad way to put it)

And then all these ppl on the other side, who've already gone thru it... are trying to tell you not to dig any deeper....as if ignorance is bliss..i've had a tase and already way deep inside this rabbit hole..... i know that backing out is just a matter of choice, a little willpower, and a bit of convincing....but right now i like to chase that fantasy....makes my blood boil....

Are you saying Game is unimportant except for getting girls?....Well its true....we can manage our social lives any way we want and get results....i think what some of them are trying to say is that....well, you don't need to be this extremely effective in managing your social life...you only need to be quite effective...

You don't need to become a millionaire, all you need is a secure job for the rest of your life.....live a simple life and die...

I only choose to be an ambitious geek not because i'm arrogant or that i view the rest of the world as zombies....but because when i talk to all of you.....you have that flame which cannot be extinguished....i see lonliness, unjustification, unsatisfaction...but some choose to turn a blind eye...

And evolution is to be blamed......Old men in their 40s,50s and 60s continue to date young woman... Speaking to my parents......either i spot all their contradictions about their insecurites and keep silent....or i get them into a heated argument about their denial.....(hahaha.....having a son that reads so much drives them crazy)

My parents are constantly listening to economists on the radio....reading the numbers, stocks on teletext.....on the computer, planning whatever on excel....and they buy small non-risky investments...... They go around singapore touring condominium and such....so that they know about the property to invest in..but they don't invest.....

And me....i'm complaining while i can be out practising....

Quickie

Ok i'll catch up to speed.....

This week, and as long as i have to do thi......its time i banned myself from intellectual conversation and debate....there is no point trying to prove a point or impress anyone..or getting my ego validated in anyway.....

for the past few years...i always thought being the wise guy or know it all was the way to go...but i realised its time i set that apart and strike for some balance....tone it down a lot.........LOTS LOTS LOTS.....i don't want to always having to rely on my philosophical bullshit about society or ppl to start a conversation.....i do realise that....many close friends and ppl that i already know find it amusing when i enrich their minds.....

but hey it gets in the way esp when meeting someone new....there is not much emotional value...unless i'm using it to critique or question or break rapport with somebody....in which case is totally insecure...................BLAh blah blAHA......


Social vibing is the way to go.....and just about changing everything into that situation.....

this is prob the most apparent reason why my sets go well..and i've more or less good for the first 10 seconds.....

Hey!(high energy, smile, devil-may-care-attitude-about-what-you-think)


now at least i've gotten my answer.....well for awhile i could not put to logic what i was doing.....perhaps..logic was in the way...

Hiatus

i should really go out today....

its just really weird i'm blogging right now...i thought to myself...here i wanna try this at a moment when i just have nothing in my mind to say...except the desire to get out there and interact wih the chicks.

its good suddenly to have this peace of mind....with nothing intrusive but just blank...

i'm going to go sleep now, but when i wake up....at exactly 11.30, i'm getting out there to work on my next breakthrough...




Why do you suppose we only feel compelled to chase the ones who run away?

I shan't have a moment's peace until its over, you know?

- Vicomte Sébastien de Valmont

Confessions of a struggling PUA

ok...i guess i haven't been honest for a very long time now... and for the first time in a very long time, i guess i'll pour it all out..

i told a friend of my in camp, that i've been recently becoming more and more public about my own life cos thats how i'm trying to destroy my insecurities by admitting to them and telling it to the whole world... but he disagrees saying that...no matter how much we reveal about ourselves, a part of us will always remain secret, that we'll never share even with our closest friends...... and that coming from someone who i've never thought was a deep person to begin with.

he says...problems keep adding up....that it is only natural to release some steam or we'll blow up..but then there are always things we hide from others...



i only have 15 mins..... guys i hope you can relate to this, and girls....if you've always wondered what is going thru the mind of males, heres a source that is as honest and from deep inside..

This weekend, i didn't do any approaches.....i was pretty smooth last weekend...it would be a long story if i gave you a glimpse of what i see of the world, but if you're interested, you can contact me.....Girls....
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My first date...

Today, after exactly 2 and a half months of doing this, i finally got my first bounce(sort of a date that happens on the spot when you bump into somebody, and the person agrees to hang out with you..) today. Out of respect, i would treat this less like a report and more on her...


She is a special in the sense that.....i've more open to going out on 'dates' and treating them as a learning experience.....

Its just girls, she has agreed to come out with me like twice...but we've never agreed on the time...it was more like placing it on the lips and then nothing flourishes out of that superficial agreement....

For the third time i bump into her, we were walking towards each other...its good when she didn't notice me, even though i called out to her..... You know how it is..when you bump into a friend on the street and both of you are walking really fast in opposite directions....they usually end as you start to say hi....... so it was a blessing in disguise when i approach her from behind by touching her elbow...


Its more difficult than usual for me to build superficial comfort with her, cos she's japanese and her english is quite broken, but i've done it twice before....and this time it was rocky as well but i managed to hold her attention long enough....

For other girls i elicit smiles and laughter or in the worst case scenario awkard silences or blow outs, but for her its always that shock/surprised look...."Woah! not again, fate has unwittingly brought us into each others paths yet again.."

I think the way i build attraction is just being honest, in the moment, slightly high energy, and confident.....its simple....esp in street game, you don't need routines...

"hi.." (forgot all the white noise that.....i don't remember what i said...most of it was gibberish, and sometimes....Emotions speak louder than words...)

she was shocked/surprised....at the same time a little resistant....i've hit on her on and off on sms, expressed my interest...but its always on/off.....sometimes i think shes not that interested, but she still msges me occcasionally out of the blue....LOL....i really don't know....

she is flaky yet warm at the same time....so i guess she's unsure?...

anyway, i did that whole walking as we talk thing unconsciously again..so it prevent ever entering that state of 'how long will this take'....

i asked her if she wants to grab something to eat....the cute thing was, she was about to give an excuse to run yet she cut herself off halfway, like "well if you're going to have your dinner, i don't mind eating together".....i don't know man...plausible deniability?

take note, that i wasn't nervous or what, but i had nothing to say up till she agrees to hang out together... We have absolutely nothing in common....different nationality, different generation(she's much older)

We went down to ion orchard.....we talked about this and that, her work, our interests, some stupid social observations that i never run out of.....

we were at this hokkaido ramen place......i don't know, i guess there is a certain degree of comfort built....that we've come to terms that she's much older and i'm much younger, and i'm not trying to be somebody i'm not even though as hard as we try to make this hanging out together as casual as possible...i talked about the childish things i like a lot....i tried to be as honest as possible...its funny, i got the ball rolling for pacing out all the awkward moments, and it helps...as we kept pacing and addressing the awkward moments.....she'll be laughing like randomly....i'll look into her eyes, and say "what is it?" and laugh......

she even paid for bulk of the meal...haha..she paid 20 while i paid 12....lol..cos its like..when its time to settle the bill in front of the counter, we're just all racing to dig from our wallets to pay....she says its ok, and i didn't pursue further...

i don't know man...i think this is going to be a 'lets just be friends'...its like i haven't tried to escalate.....and she doesn't mind spending time with me....So guys, its OK if at the end of the day you decide not to settle, we can still all be friends...

we shard the journey till city hall where we gave our goodbyes...

i didn't give her a proper sendoff/goodbye either....gotta focus on this...damn...don't know why i always seem to be in a hurry........well....

phone numbers, meeting new ppl, dates even...seem so obtainable these days....that its natural that i thread lightly.....i know i sound like a loser for saying this, esp to some guys who've already figured this part of their lives out.....but hey, right now.....statiscally, i'm in the upper quadrant, top percentile in this distribution...

Good luck all...

p.s, luke have you been rating my entries?

Eliciting Values

really quick post...

I could read/sense a person's emotions prior/during/post approach after doing this for awhile... I'm not boasting, but it just that you could tell the emotions and insecurities, discomfort your set goes through as your presence intrigues them.

I was a helping out doing road bloks and doing human traffic control...Ppl ask you all sorts of stupid questions that i just realise, they had so much tension being in a public place that they relieve it through a smile or some small talk with me, when i'm in army uniform. I always knew this, but this is just evidence to how ppl are lost and confused during this phenomenal population exploded society, that the only way to express themselves is to ask for directions, question my authority if they could cross the road when the red man is lighted which explicitly spell out 'DO NOT CROSS'.
I give them the stern glare, no smile. I do not even have to raise my hand to stop them. They stop on their tracks sometimes with a foot shot out about to cross.

Try this, in the mrt train, on the street, shopping malls. I stared at every single person, man, woman, child. 80% do not look at you, their eyes circle to avoid my laser beams. 10% look at you for less than a split second then look away in awkwardness. The next 5% challenge me to eye-contact in which they eventually lose. The next 4.999% smile to break the tension, in which case i smile back.

Children hold the stare the longest.... I recoommend anybody with children or planning of having kids to raise their children this way. From the moment they're born, educate him/her on the nature of eye-contact and human touch. Communicate love to your children through human touch and eye-contact. Allow them to express themselves at an early age, do not punish but reward when they express themselves.............get them talking to strangers.

WTF now i've digressed........


besides the short-term insecurities. Knowing a person's 'reality'. Her long term insecurities/passions/subconsciousness.......I mean, thru the vocabulary that they use, the books they read, clothes they wear, the company of their friends, their photographs.

For example, i mean its not big news that, girls do flash game with their facebook accts, uploading gigs of photographs on their accts detailing every moment of their lives...arent they the most desperate and in need of attention.(well everyone is.) The clothes they wear, the better they are dress, the more selective of their clothing, the more selective of their partners. Look at their friend's profiles, activities blog, and you've got that person all figured out. He or she may tell you he/she is busy, but you know its all a lie, or worst, being busy with the mundaneness.

In any case, if you have the answers they are looking for...........go figure.

Other examples.....girls that do sports, even the frickin bra they wear, inches of their heels....choice of brand of bag. How they strut when they walk in public.....somehow they think they're models.....model vibe, wind-in-the-hair vibe.....gives you a clue into their relative social value.

I feel naive and inadequate.

ever feel naive or inadequate in front of ppl you are trying to impress....just that you shouldn't be trying to impress ppl....but we try too hard sometimes...definite learning point....


http://attractwomenanywhere.com/blog/2009/07/25/invite-of-the-year-community-weirdness-ensues/

an article about someone who is too motivated...i'm guilty of that...too disrespectful to ppl's feelings...an being totally unaware about it..

its an invite to a party, i've yet to go for parties and clubbing....so i don't understand, really find it funny...but there are points highlighted that expresses the person arrogance, ignorance, naivete...and how the person is unconscious about it about his incompetence...

Thing is.....we are all guilty for that some point or another in life.......

CHEERS TO THE TRUTH
ZiqZak

Quick update

i was going to do this earlier...but i got into some entanglements....

i was trying to teach someone something i observed..but then it soon spiralled into this debate which intellectuals have to externally validate themselves and get reassuarance for their believes if they win.

i am so guilty of that right now....i talked about this before, but sometimes we go into it...and before we realise, its too late. Oh dear, the mysteries of the human psyche....

this is going to be a short blast...i intended to title this entry "My awesome experiences in Self-Discovery"....yes, thats external validation.

but i was going to give a few ppl a big thank you that have given me a deeper grounding....so i'll just do that and get ahead with my day.

Evan - The guy who grew up with years of experience in theatre. i like to see him as my mentor. I still do, sometimes. Its not that i think i'm better now. Thanks for teaching me so much, about managing my emotions and being a great contributor to my self-help journey, that it would be a long list if i listed everything you told me.



Papa(from the Game) - World-reknown marketing guru of Pickup, which has shaped the business it is today. It was kind of you to let me crash the workshop. Had a twenty minute conversation with this guy. I was switched off most of the time...his strong accent which i could not follow half the time....and you were probably tired when you shared you experiences with me that it sounded dead, though the content was the opposite.



Shane - for giving me a glimpse into getting girls in clubs. though you did all this thru own experiences and knew nothing about pua. From what you said, i know you're right...He possesses the vibe, humour, dominance, right frames...