Ego, The Self-image

i've gain a new revelation.....

insecurities are part of a bigger piece of a person's mind

Ego, how highly one thinks of himself, or herself...sometimes, 'insecurities' may not be the justifiable word for how one views himself...(apologize for my weak grasp in such psychological concepts..)....But in order to make oneself look good and dominant.....one may submit to his own ego which in the best case scenario, its good.....while in the worst case scenario, he would be in denial...blah blah blah

until i can explain these in proper terms, i shall not confuse you guys, cos i haven't thought thru it yet....


Anyway, in an interaction.....i'vejust learnt from evan and realised some of this from whatever resources i've read that...its not good to 'show hand'....its good to create 'fishing lines' unanswered questions ......

By keeping this in mind, i realised that, i force myself to avoid ego validation....and i've never knew how it can be done to stroke someone's ego....but i guess this means 'Qualifying'! Bait hook reel release...

I gotta be aware if i'm cutting off ppl's sentences....i'm rather effective in expressing myself that i'm completing ppl's sentences for them....while they're still processing their thoughts....AND THIS IS BAD!.......while its time for ppl to hold court, do not cut them out...........i better slap myself each time i do this.


push-pull: i think ppl may wonder how its done?....its not enough to simply say balance every IOI with and IOD....it is a good rule to practise....it onl works if the other party appreciates your IOIs... From a wider perspective....i believe it is more of reeling them in....and then be the first one to push or release....


Thats it...some random thoughts on my interactions today....

Its also good to create lots of drama....these i learnt from 'J'