Blinded by my ego....

i just woke up in the middle of the night i realised this...and i better say it so i can at least get back to an hour or more of sleep...

it wasn't because i sucked but i escalated wrong..........the first time i was bought a large bulk of my dinner...maybe she was hesitant....or she would have paid the whole thing....

this time, why would someone buy me coffee? i just bump into a stranger....talk....you get a listener and free drink........

and i thought i was doing it wrong....i was still held by the preconceived notion that girls shouldn't be paying for stuff........and that guys should be the one paying...

not sure though....whether its because the other person is more senior and being a working professional thus feel compelled to do so.....

Now i'm fucked up....should i pay, feel good that the other person is paying or go dutch?....

this argument stems from the awkwardness i feel esp during that coffee date, that even though i pull the dollar note....ppl still push it away and maybe i could display some sort of male dominance.....

what is the appropriate course of action with the highest situational relevance?

hahaha..i just like that i sound so analytical...

maybe the right pua mentality would be to get on 10 other dates and calibrate....

according to mystery, or business psychology books.....its emotional investment.....the more a person invest emotionally, the more likely there would be a follow up....so if i would to follow this rule, then i should just let it happen....and this is counter-intuitive....

Sinn's "oh-shit buttons"....pinging.....The person 'moves' or 'isolate', you're 99% of the time developed attraction...i have 'bought me a drink(day)/meal(evening)'...

shall stop the self-amusement here.....

A. high compliance/investment
B. plausible deniability
C. developed attraction



ARGHHHHHHH i shouldn't even give a shit....its not important, what's important is climbing on to opportunities!!!!!!!!!!!! and that talk is for another day..........

i needed but didn't

A. Qualify!( may or may not have done to acknoledge..)
B. Triangular gaze
C. sexual SOI
D. Kino rewards

i succeeded
A. pump state.
B.Being social
C. Emotional connection
D. Kino