English Summer Rain

A few months ago, one of those days when me & a close confidante of mine, Evan did some catching up.... We haven't met for about 3 months, and I told him excitedly how much emotionally or mentally stronger I've becomed.

I was telling him about the state management tactics that i've been using to constantly relieve myself of negative emotions of sadness, neediness, jealousy, rejection or even rivalrous or amogging intentions.

Basically, the idea is quite similar to doing something you enjoy, while you're emotional, as much as possible..to trick your mind into believing that you're happy. (however this may not be a possible avenue for e.g, things like surfing, dancing, singing, watching tv while you're at work...)

It is proven that(or by how much you believe that it'll work), by standing up straight, walking with good posture, holding a big smile across your face, jumping up and down, forced laughter, while you're feeling emotionally down........ Using your physical body feedback and actions to trigger positive emotions in your brain.

I relied on it a lot. And for awhile i thought this was probably the most efficient, instant-fix way to deal with the problem. Evan disagrees. Despite that it works in the short-term, you're still not coming to terms with the source of your neediness in the long run. Sometimes absorbing and taking all that sadness in instead of "avoiding" it. It would then ultimately result in you being emotionally free.

It then came to me this morning after I was already over the worst part of the pain that being emotionally strong meant allowing all of the darkness to envelop you and not deny the fact that you're feeling sad.....but know that you're strong enough to be above all of it.

Sure, pumping state is still good for when you require that good boost and to overcome the "activation level" to break thru that threshold before you fully let yourself go...
However now, its more like using positive affirmations, that you have a lot to be happy for despite having a setback at that moment.

Only then will sadness and neediness taste bittersweet... :)