I am inclined to write a post about polyamory as the superior system as opposed to monogamous arrangements in developed societies.
While what is natural does not make it right. What is "right" is a system of norms. We deem actions unethical to reduce grief, jealousy and really painful emotions to humans in modern societies. But just because its painful does not make it wrong. Just because its painful does not mean we should totally build a system to avoid it completely. Nature isn't cruel, nature is fair. It is humans who are bitter about it. Marriage is fair to humans, if humans are equal, assuming humans are equal. We are disrupting a system of nature, because humans are not equal, and we benefit from having only superior genes propagate.
A system of less restraint, polyamory, while more painful, also ensures that evolutionary selective pressures remain strong and favoring superior genes.
To understand the curse that befall an individual that upholds the ethical principles/social norms of monogamy. Besides putting him in a constant denial and internal conflict, but mainly, reduces his desirability as a mate. He/she is essentially putting a barrier in front of him/her against interested mates thereby preventing his/her mating success merely to uphold a set of rules that prevent "emotional hurt" to others.
Is trying to prevent emotional "hurt" (if we can call it that, emotions are simply there to guide us, "hurt" is a signal, not a disastrous consequence.) upholding humanity? Is prevent emotional "hurt" to others, respecting our own emotions?
Marriage can be such a collective state of denial, a wuss way of handling your "hurt" by condemning our promiscuous wirings, when many tribal societies go around it by simply accepting it instead of coming up with a restrictive construct such as marriage. (Read more on the Masai people and their sexual practices, well or any other tribe. Perhaps even sexual practices in rural parts of Asia.)
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I think after we come to terms with our own internal ethics that have been so senselessly distorted by social norms, we can come to live fully with ourselves and remove that barrier that prevents us sexual access and live complete.
While what is natural does not make it right. What is "right" is a system of norms. We deem actions unethical to reduce grief, jealousy and really painful emotions to humans in modern societies. But just because its painful does not make it wrong. Just because its painful does not mean we should totally build a system to avoid it completely. Nature isn't cruel, nature is fair. It is humans who are bitter about it. Marriage is fair to humans, if humans are equal, assuming humans are equal. We are disrupting a system of nature, because humans are not equal, and we benefit from having only superior genes propagate.
A system of less restraint, polyamory, while more painful, also ensures that evolutionary selective pressures remain strong and favoring superior genes.
To understand the curse that befall an individual that upholds the ethical principles/social norms of monogamy. Besides putting him in a constant denial and internal conflict, but mainly, reduces his desirability as a mate. He/she is essentially putting a barrier in front of him/her against interested mates thereby preventing his/her mating success merely to uphold a set of rules that prevent "emotional hurt" to others.
Is trying to prevent emotional "hurt" (if we can call it that, emotions are simply there to guide us, "hurt" is a signal, not a disastrous consequence.) upholding humanity? Is prevent emotional "hurt" to others, respecting our own emotions?
Marriage can be such a collective state of denial, a wuss way of handling your "hurt" by condemning our promiscuous wirings, when many tribal societies go around it by simply accepting it instead of coming up with a restrictive construct such as marriage. (Read more on the Masai people and their sexual practices, well or any other tribe. Perhaps even sexual practices in rural parts of Asia.)
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I think after we come to terms with our own internal ethics that have been so senselessly distorted by social norms, we can come to live fully with ourselves and remove that barrier that prevents us sexual access and live complete.
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